I just read my friend’s tweet responded how people wish the 2021 will be better than 2020. She said, “2021 and life will not get easier, but we have to be stronger because life will get bigger and tougher”. Her tweet flicks me, and becomes a good reminder in the right time for me.
That tweet realizes me that I hold my emotion a lot these days. I was afraid, “If I am happy and enjoy this time too much, I will get something tougher tomorrow”. I was busy to predict the worst things that may happen from the good things I got. In fact, I am not qualified to predict those worst things, because I don’t do anything yet in that path. I am not qualified to judge the future from certain things, because I don’t even have a time machine to explore what happen in the future. What a fictive time travel!
That tweet realized me that “when I hold my emotion, my eyes are only focus to those hardships, my brain keeps figuring out what kind of hardship and though things I will face tomorrow”. Otherwise, I don’t focus to prepare myself to the new growth.
It is a natural law that [in the right path], as we grow more, we will through tougher things, we will live a harder life. But our focus is not to predict the type of those hardships, but prepare our best to face it. Those hardships are not our final destinations. Our final destinations are the “best version of us” in every challenges and conditions.
For example, when the technologists develop technologies from year to year, they are focus in establishing their good faith: to ease certain things through technology. They don’t focus for the worst case that may happen. Yes, the technologist are still aware for the worst things, but those are not their main focus. They focus on establishing that good faith, try many ways, calculate the error, and try again.
In the other side, who knows? Those technologies raise the tighter competition in job searching in this era. Subsequently, the technologist grow more in that effect; they create many new tools to compete: LinkedIn, Indeed, and other job searching website to search the job without any limit.
Same with us in 2021! Our main focus is not “how though this year will be”. As my friend also tweeted, “2021 will not change us. We are the one who make those changes”. It also reminds me to my teacher’s words during High School, “In life, we are creating our self, not finding our self”. This is our first life [even if we believe in reincarnation, as a normal human, we don’t really know how our previous life], we are not busy to search something that we don’t know that it does exist or not. But we create them; we create those “ideal reaction” exist in our mind to every new condition. It is our right for everything in our life, not others’ obligation to our lives.
For whatever in 2021, I wish you a lot of strength and love! Good luck!
